A Poem for Parents Who Have Lost a Child

There are a lot of hurting people out there today.  One of the most painful experiences anyone can go through is to lose a child.  It's not right, somehow. You never think you're going to have your child die before you do.  These are some of the responses that others have shared with me about losing their child. It doesn't matter how old your child is when you lose them, it's always hard.  Never say to someone, "Well, at least you had them for ____ years."  Or the other extreme, when someone loses a child through miscarriage, "Well, at least you never really knew them--that would be worse."  Miscarriage affects millions and can be devastating to parents. (Click here for Miscarriage statistics and helpful information.)
Sometimes well-meaning people make things worse by playing down the loss.  In 1987 we suffered the loss of our child through miscarriage. (I believe that I may have miscarried numerous times before this, but we won't be sure until we arrive in heaven and meet "our children").
The Lord gave me the words to this poem as I grieved.  I dedicate it to you moms and dads whose little one is in heaven with Jesus now, running and jumping and playing, while you are here on earth.  I pray that it will minister to your heart, beloved hurting friend.

My Child Died Today
My Child died today.

Is anyone aware?
My Child died today.

Does anybody care?
My Child died today.

Dear God,
Are You up there?

My Child died today.

The pain is more than I can bear.

I cried out to the LORD in anguish
"How could You do this to me?"
I could not comprehend at first
These precious gems of truth learned slowly
But I felt His presence surround me
And His soft voice say,
"I feel your pain and I do care,
You're not the only one,
You see, two thousand years ago,
I also lost a Son.
I suffer with you, know your sorrow,
Understand your fears.
For back what seems only a day
A debt there was to pay:
To give to you Eternal Life
I tried to find a way
So you could live, I chose to say
My Child Died Today."
© Wendy Trachy Gunn 1988

If you know someone who is hurting and would benefit by receiving a copy of this poem,

it is available for purchase through Scribd, under my profile Titus2woman.

My prayer is that it will help bring healing to many who are hurting from the loss of a child.


These books both received an average of 5-star ratings in many reviews.  Reading some of the reviews and from what I could ascertain online, they appeared good.  However, I can't guarantee they are good or that they will definitely be a help to you, in this case, as I have not read them, (it's always dangerous to recommend books without having read them, so, please let me know, if you have read them, what you thought of them or if there is something objectionable.)  Also, I would love any of your book recommendations of Christian authors who've written on miscarriage and losing a child, especially books that are including Scripture.