Spanking (Part 2): Child-Training Advice from An Older Woman on Timely Tips on Tuesday

This is Part 2 of a series on Spanking.  Yes, controversial stuff.  I have strong opinions on the subject.  But, I believe they are also Biblical.  If you see anything I have said that contradicts Scripture, please (lovingly) tell me.  I'll be posting for awhile on this subject as part of my "Timely Tips on Tuesday" theme, so be sure to check in every week.  Please also go back and read "Spanking (Part 1):  Child-Training Advice from An Older Woman," if you haven't already done so, for the beginning of this series.

You may not be ready for the delightful change you are about to experience.  The atmosphere of your home will become quite peaceful and joyful. Being a happy mom will be such a joy to you!


Safe and Secure
In our home, our children began to act more loving to me.  There was a contented, secure, peaceful happiness about them.  They were more creative in their play, got along better with each other, and generally appeared to feel very safe and secure.  Children are not happy when they are being disobedient, and when they know that mom and dad are unhappy with them!

Our children responded positively to knowing what was expected of them and what would happen when they disobeyed or had a bad attitude.  Being consistent in disciplining both actions and attitudes was the means for teaching them what to do with their sin, and how to change, because we talked about the attitudes and character that they were displaying and what the Bible has to say about bitterness, anger, slothfulness, dishonor, disobedience, and more.  These are all heart issues. (One resource we used was Proverbs for Parenting.)


Because I was staying calm during the conflict, we could have conversations in which I could share Bible verses with them, admit my own failures and sin in the same areas they were struggling in, and help them see how to deal with heart issues in a Biblical way.  I was free from the guilt of responding in anger, so I could train them in righteousness.  A significant factor was that their spirits didn't become closed and their hearts hardened by my anger.  This allowed them to be open to the Holy Spirit.  Their consciences remained sensitive or became that way again, and their hearts became more and more tender.


Children enjoy being happy and obedient, which is the peaceful fruit of righteousness which results from receiving Biblical chastening.

For the wrath of man

worketh not the righteousness of God.

James 1:20

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

Hebrews 12:11